Sometimes the Best Advice is: "DON'T LISTEN"!
Do we have a problem with listening too much? Sometimes we hear things said about us that are really none of our business. Why do we listen, and why do we take these words to heart? Solomon teaches us a hard lesson in Ecclesiastes 7:21, but it's a lesson that will help us immensely if learned.
The Holy Spirit inspired the following: "Also take no heed unto all words that are spoken; lest thou hear thy servant curse thee." What a lesson! In a time when we want to hear all, and when social media allows us to hear it, let's go back and listen to Solomon. He reminds us that this isn't always a good idea! "Take no heed" means essentially, don't take it seriously. I've had to tell people (and tell myself), "consider the source!" This is the essence of Ecclesiastes 7:21.
Don't listen, nor take to heart everything that falls out of someone's mouth (or keyboard). An enemy doesn't have your best interests in mind, anyway. Someone may ask, "What if it's a friend saying harmful things?" As someone once told me, "Hateful statements are sometimes made by kind people." We don't always know what a person's disposition is when they say things. You may be the nearest person to criticize when a friend is angry! Someone has said, "He was in the line of fire." Listen, dear one -- "take no heed"!
As I thought about Ecclesiastes 7:21, I also thought about the other side of this "coin." You see, it's true that harmful statements can be made in a moment, and yes, there are times when a person does damage with his sharp tongue (Jas. 3:2, 5-6, 8; Ecc. 5:6; Prov. 26:18-19). Yet, have we ever thought about the fact that perhaps some of the damage could've been lessened if we'd not taken it the way we did? Maybe there would've been no lasting damage done if, after we have heard someone say something, that we remembered the words, "For oftentimes also thine own heart knoweth that thou thyself likewise hast cursed others" (Ecc. 7:22)!
In other words, before we get too offended at what someone has said about us, remember that we probably did the same thing already! Did you mean it, or was your mouth in gear while your brain was in neutral? Were you angry, and this person was just the easiest "target"? Maybe that's what happened to our friend, too. Think the best about people instead of thinking the worst (I Cor. 13:7). See how your life is bettered for it!
I know it is a hard pill to swallow in a society that prefers "information overload," but sometimes, the best advice is: "Don't listen!" You'll be happier when you don't have your nose in other people's business. Furthermore, the one who said something hateful will have some time to calm down, reflect, and repent before things get worse. Isn't this the way we live Matthew 7:12 and 22:39?